Cord Cutting & Abandonment Issues: Finding Freedom Without Losing Love
- Introspective Odyssey
- Aug 12
- 2 min read
Abandonment wounds run deep.
They’re not just about someone leaving — they’re about the story our mind tells us when they do.
For many, that story sounds like:
“I’m unworthy.”
“I’ll be alone forever.”
“I must hold on tighter so they don’t leave.”
This often creates patterns of clinging, over-giving, or shaping ourselves into what we think will keep someone close. And yet, paradoxically, that tight grip can suffocate the very connection we’re trying to preserve.
Where Cord Cutting Fits In
Cord cutting is a powerful energetic tool, but it’s often misunderstood.
It’s not about erasing someone from your life or coldly severing all connection. And it’s certainly not about punishing someone for leaving or protecting yourself from ever feeling hurt again.
At its deepest, cord cutting is about releasing unhealthy attachments — the tangled cords fueled by fear, expectation, or the desperate need to keep someone from walking away.
When we do this work with intention, we’re not cutting the relationship itself — we’re cutting the energetic patterns that bind us in ways that limit freedom and growth for both people.
A Shift in Motivation
If you approach cord cutting with the thought, “I don’t want to feel this pain, so I’ll just detach completely,” you may end up isolating yourself and reinforcing the abandonment wound.
Instead, ask:
“How can I give both of us freedom?”
“How can I release my grip without losing my love?”
“How can I allow connection without fear?”
This is where the healing happens — when you can let someone be free without the constant threat of losing yourself if they leave.
An Invitation to Heal
Before any cord cutting ritual, pause to acknowledge:
Your part in the attachment dynamic.
The fears and beliefs abandonment stirs up in you.
The possibility that love can exist without possession.
By holding space for both your wound and your willingness to free it, you create the right conditions for true cord cutting—one that liberates, not isolates.
Gentle Reminder:
Cord cutting isn’t a one-time “fix.” It’s part of a larger healing journey of reclaiming your worth, your boundaries, and your sense of safety in love. When you integrate this practice with self-awareness and inner work, it becomes a profound tool for both spiritual and emotional freedom.
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